The fine art of 'hovering'
| As part of one of my communication workshops, I have the participants do an exercise that involves circulating and conversing with each other for a short, specified period of time. It often highlights a problem that is very common among people at networking events.
At conferences and other events where people are circulating and trying to get to know one another, there are always a few who seem to be left “out in the cold”, casting about for a group to join and looking hesitant and awkward. If this happens to you, here is a secret that will help you solve the problem: practise the fine art of hovering! Let’s assume you have just arrived, things are in full swing and you don’t see anyone you know. First, I suggest you pick up whatever is available to drink, whether it’s a cup of coffee, a glass of wine or even water. The point is, for this occasion it’s not a drink—it’s a prop. Most of us feel more comfortable when we have something in our hands. Now look around and select a group to join. Gradually move over towards the group. Instead of moving right in, though, “hover” on the edge, but close enough to make it clear you are listening to the person who happens to be speaking. If it’s a funny story, join in the laughter. Eventually, someone will see you and invite you into the group. If someone stops speaking to bring you in, accept the invitation, but say something like, “Please don’t stop what you were saying—it’s very interesting.” Your consideration will be appreciated by the group, and when there is an appropriate break in the conversation, you can take an opportunity to introduce yourself or be introduced. When choosing a group to join, avoid those with two people earnestly involved in a discussion. They may not even see you hovering, and even if they do you may not be welcome. No matter what your job is today, networking opportunities abound and you are well advised to take advantage of them, even if you are shy. Don’t forget, those people who all seem to know one another are simply five minutes ahead of you in the process. Select a group, hover and join—piece of cake! © 2004 Helen Wilkie All Rights Reserved. You may reprint this article for your online or print publication so long as you include the complete article and the following paragraph: Helen Wilkie is a professional speaker, consultant and author who helps companies do better business through better communication. Her latest book is "The Hidden Profit Center". To received free monthly tips and techniques on communication, visit http://www.mhwcom.com or http://www.HiddenProfitCenter.com and sign up for "Communi-keys". Reach Helen Wilkie at 416-966-5023 or hwilkie@mhwcom.com |
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